Emotional Healing | My Experience and Advice

Emotional Healing | My Experience and Advice

This is incredibly personal, but I truly believe my experience with healing and self-love can heal many other people that may be going through something similar. Sending you so much love. This too shall pass. x

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  1. Olivia Ramirez on January 4, 2022 at 11:12 am

    Six days after this video came out, I left my relationship of almost 7 years. I went from planning my wedding one day (he asked if I wanted to get married in the spring on Halloween, only to rescind it the next day because he said I needed to lose weight) to realizing I deserved so much better. The day this came out, I went out and got a journal on grief. It took 6 days until I was able to break up with my ex (he was away for work) but I resonated so much with what you were saying that I knew it was time. I started reaching out to family and friends. I started making plans. This was the first deep breath before I jumped into the deep end. I came back to this video almost a year on because I wanted to remember where I was when this video came out. If you think you want to leave, that’s enough to leave. You all deserve so much love in your life.

  2. HI HEY HELLO on January 4, 2022 at 11:13 am

    looking back on old videos with joe, he definitely wasn’t the one…commitment issues

  3. Hannah H on January 4, 2022 at 11:13 am

    I’ve just had my heart broken and feel like I lost a little piece of myself. My Mum’s big thing is that if it isn’t meant to be it isn’t meant to be. This is definitely something I needed to watch, so thank you x

  4. Elina Huseynova on January 4, 2022 at 11:13 am

    Thank you for making this kind of content ❤️

  5. TheGamersUKnow on January 4, 2022 at 11:14 am

    Thank you Niomi for sharing your experience! I’m truly glad you’re feeling much better you’re truly glowing and although this video was posted last year, with all my heart I hope you continue to shine as bright as the sun! 🙂 Your story came at the right time knocking on my door and I’ll more than gladly take that as a sign to follow your advise and push forward the break up trauma I’ve been going through for the past few months.

  6. Lotte Perry on January 4, 2022 at 11:15 am

    This video has been so helpful for me !!!

  7. magaliep34 on January 4, 2022 at 11:15 am

    Watching this only now but thank you so much for making this helpful video!!

  8. Giovanna Jangarelli on January 4, 2022 at 11:20 am

    I’ve been going through the same. Never felt a pain like this. Thank you so much for this video Niomi!

  9. ben said Jawaher on January 4, 2022 at 11:22 am

    Thank you for sharing this beautiful journey

  10. Carina Jung on January 4, 2022 at 11:22 am

    I remembered watching this video months ago, now that my heart got broken, I looked it up again. Thank you for every single beautiful soothing word of yours. Thank you for your incredible openness. ❤️

  11. Anna E. on January 4, 2022 at 11:23 am

    DEar Niomi, I am glad that you are feeling better about the breakup. I wish, however, that you would look for help in relation to your (very clear) orthorexia. It is crystal clear from your vlogs that you have some sort of eating disorder – no shaming here at all, honestly, from my heart, but I cannot not say anything when so many girls follow you and see you as an example of "healthy eating". Your eating is MOST DEFINITELY NOT HEALTHY (not because of your food choices, but because of many other details that a slightly trained eye in the field of Eating Disorders will spot within seconds, and which I am not going to get into here). I wish healing for you, on EVERY level – maybe you are already looking for help in this regard, you´ve just chosen not to make it public, and that is of course 1,000% fine. I hope that is the case. This comment is more for every single woman reading it and struggling with self-image, and thinking that Niomi´s way of eating and exercising is healthy at all (again, we are not talking about the choice of foods she eats, but her obsession with portions, excluding certain foods that she clearly deems as "bad", exercising obsessively at times, etc.). Why do I feel the need to speak up? Because I suffered from bulimia and anorexia for many years, and I am fully recovered now, and an eating disorder has NOTHING to do with food, but rather with control and lack of self-love and self-acceptance (for various reasons). Be well everyone. Xx P.S. If you don´t agree with this comment, do your research on Eating Disorders, specifically orthorexia and anorexia, and then watch Niomi´s videos again. You will see them with a new understanding. Again, my goal with this is to HELP people who may be suffering, not to shame Niomi in any way. X

  12. J Kally on January 4, 2022 at 11:23 am

    I’m currently going through a break-up and watching these videos are really helping me come to terms with how I’m feeling

  13. Tara Jay on January 4, 2022 at 11:23 am

    beautiful words naomi , i really needed to see this video.

  14. J W on January 4, 2022 at 11:27 am

    This is so amazing. I echo what everyone says – so raw and real and put out there to genuinely try and help people. It got me! But then I burst out laughing when you started reeling off your acceptance speech hahaha. Here’s to even more healing and happiness xxx

  15. Beth Cross on January 4, 2022 at 11:28 am

    I needed this today. I’m going through a rocky patch atm and to know that things will get better and that it’s totally ok to be selfish and put yourself first is so inspiring ❤️

  16. Bina G on January 4, 2022 at 11:33 am

    More power to you ❤️

  17. Tjaša Okleščen on January 4, 2022 at 11:34 am

    Just what I needed to hear in this moment. I’ve watched this video more than once and everytime it helps to remind me that everything happens for a reason!
    You are so lovely, I hope you are doing okay xx

  18. Francesca Wellock on January 4, 2022 at 11:36 am

    You’re so lovely. Well done on doing this content. You’re incredibly strong and brave.

  19. Please call me Kim on January 4, 2022 at 11:37 am

    Such a beautiful video & so well said Niomi! I’m sorry that you’ve had to go through so much hurt. I’m glad that you are healing well! I’m so excited for your future!

  20. Lillian Jones on January 4, 2022 at 11:37 am

    Thank you so much for sharing this Niomi <3

  21. Delaney California on January 4, 2022 at 11:38 am

    I really needed this video as I’m going through a painful breakup. Thank you for your calming advice. It’s heartbreaking to have the realization that the person we once loved and wanted to be with forever just wasn’t the right person. I convinced myself that he loved me, even whilst receiving horrible abuse from him. I just wanted to make him happy, so much so that I forgot to make myself happy.

  22. Danica on January 4, 2022 at 11:44 am

    I know that heartbreaks are terrible..but what if a family member disappoints you? Suddenly doesnt care about you and you were so close for 24 years of your life?
    Im struggling with this one for more than two years and honestly im just becoming more and more depressed

  23. Sara Couto on January 4, 2022 at 11:45 am

    you are such a light on this platform <3

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  25. Jessica Guinness on January 4, 2022 at 11:46 am

    Going through a tough breakup as of last night. I came straight to this video to seek some sort of comfort that I will feel normal again. It’s unbearable and it feels surreal. I keep thinking it’s a bad dream but nope. Thank you for giving me some hope x

  26. oscerevision on January 4, 2022 at 11:47 am

    This must be SO hard to share. but know you are helping MILLIONS of people going through the same situation as this

  27. Audrey on January 4, 2022 at 11:48 am

    i needed this video today. it made my day. thank you!

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  29. Mirain Evans on January 4, 2022 at 11:50 am

    I can’t emphasise enough how much this video helped me with my break up from a 7 year relationship!! I still watch it now and it’s been a few months! Just foes to show, showing your emotions and being real to the public has soo many pro’s to it! ❤️❤️❤️

  30. ReRe G on January 4, 2022 at 11:52 am

    You think you’d remember how heartbreak feels, but it is different every time. As if you’ve forgotten.

  31. Natasha Bailie on January 4, 2022 at 11:54 am

    I think you are bloody fabulous – I wish we didn’t think that ‘selfish’ was a dirty word. I think you are about to enter a chapter where you celebrate you and your people and your choices xxxx

  32. Stephanie Gasendo on January 4, 2022 at 11:54 am

    Months later but still find this relevant and helpful i lov how genuine strong and courgaeous youve been, cheers to healing niomi! We’re all in this together ❤️

  33. Camila Pinilla on January 4, 2022 at 11:55 am

    Thank you for this! I relate so much. You’re such an inspiration ❤️

  34. koaruaok on January 4, 2022 at 11:57 am

    I am going through the same thing, and I remembered Niomi’s video from a year before. I’m still in denial and shock, but knowing that it’s possible to be happy again is giving me hope. This video has given me the courage to wake up, get out of bed, and switch to self-care mode. I’ll be watching this video everyday for a while now, just as a reminder…and it feels like a friend is cheering me up. Thank you Niomi.

  35. Chantal Paquette on January 4, 2022 at 11:58 am

    Sorry to hear about your break up. I hope you’re doing well and that’s things have been going better. I heard that the path you wanted to take didn’t match the path that he wanted to take. I hope you find someone better someday who’s path will match the one that you want to take. Hang in there and keep the faith

  36. Black Jasmine on January 4, 2022 at 12:02 pm

    Niomi, what happened with your relationship sounds brutal but… in years to come you may come to realise that this is the best thing that every happened to you! There is a reason why this person needed to leave your life. I speak from experience! : ) Much love to you xxx

  37. TracyLynnCruz on January 4, 2022 at 12:03 pm

    When she said she broke down in her stepdads arms… oh man.

  38. Jo Lo on January 4, 2022 at 12:04 pm

    Thank yu so much for this video… xx

  39. Svetlana Varlamova on January 4, 2022 at 12:07 pm

    thank you for being ssincere

  40. Esmeralda Rosales on January 4, 2022 at 12:08 pm

    Here after a completely unexpected break up last night. Hoping that I can get something out of this and maybe start to heal. It’s just all so hard right now. I want to feel my feelings but I also don’t want to feel them.

  41. Hannah Smith on January 4, 2022 at 12:09 pm

    loved this, thank you for sharing so helpful! <3